Trust.
Oh Trust...you and I go back a long way. But not in one of those "hey buddy how ya doin?" kinda ways.
No, I mean like.."I've been dealing with your shit for years" kind of ways.
Now this most recent run in..well..you did what you always do. You came, you saw, you allowed yourself to be destroyed..and now you're pretty much gone. For now anyways I guess.
So on to the root of the story.
Girls are sneaky bitches. I am a girl, so I should know. Now girls are notorious for wanting things that aren't theirs. It's called jealousy and it runs rampant in the girl community. In this department, I can't claim to be too much better than the rest. I mean...I did kind of steal the boy I have now. But the relationship was broken beyond repair when I got there, and after a week it was over. If there was truly something there, it would have taken longer than a week for it to end. I never actively tried to "steal" him...we hung out as friends, and a week later he confessed his feelings for me and ended his current relationship. End of story.
Anyways. It's happening again. But this time, I'm the girl on the receiving end of the shit storm. And it sucks. Because this relationship isn't broken. As far as I know, the boy doesn't want to leave. We've had some hard times, one just recently that was pure hell..but we're working on it. Well this girl is sneaky, she wants whats mine, and she's good at going about trying to fulfill her wishes. The boy is either oblivious, likes the attention, or has return feelings..I guess only time will tell. I've tried to tell him, but he refuses to listen. And I'm lost as what to do.
He and her have a history. As far as I know it's a "friendship" history, but history none the less. I don't want to run him off with my incessant ramblings of jealousy and anxiety..but what do you do? Like I said before, I'm a girl, I know ALL the tricks! Everything she is doing, I'd be doing to if I was that kind of girl. The "problem" is that it's nothing overtly flirting. She never says she wants to kiss him, or go out with him...but she does stalk his facebook, change her profile picture daily ( to show him what he's missing), offer to comfort him, offer to make him food...those are all thing's I'M supposed to do! And most of it doesn't stem from distrust of him..it's her. Girls have been sneaky bitches since the beginning of time, it's a skill they've only gotten better at. I say "they" because I hate being associated with..well..."them". I guess I just have this belief that you have to help shield your partner from temptation. You don't allow certain things to happen because eventually, temptation, proves to be too much. No one is perfect, no matter how good the intentions are, people fall into temptation. So at what point do I say enough is enough? How much dealing with her advances do I take on before I put my foot down? I hate being that girl who tells a guy to stop talking to their friends, but...UGH! Yea...that's about all I can say at this point.
I guess we'll see where this leads. At this point I don't really have the power to do anything else, and it drives me crazy...but, I'm used to this feeling. Just, sometimes, I think I shouldn't have to feel it so much.
Yikes. Well asking him to ditch a friend for you regardless is kind of too much. If she is making any sort of advances on him then you should take that up with her not him...especially since he seems to be clueless. And I wish I could be stolen from wherever lol
ReplyDeleteSee, I don't necessarily agree there. I was raised with the belief that if you have a problem with someone in your significant others circle, (parents, family, friends) it is their job to deal with it. It just makes things easier for all parties involved.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I have had enough experience with the whole "not asking a guy to ditch a toxic friend" thing, that I just don't care anymore. I do not have people that are toxic to me in my life, period. Why should they? We argue about this a lot because I have no problem telling someone to get out of my life if they are causing problems. He on the other hand, keeps anyone and everyone around. He doesn't like confrontation. Lol, every day of my life is a confrontation :)
And I'm sure you'll find someone to steal you away soon enough :)